apparently, i'm getting this vibe of confusion and hostility on my past post of "no crazy please". first off, i understand there are moments for ladies to act up (thus the emphasis is on moments), but this whole topic of "oh is this chick really crazy or not" is not so black and white. unfortunately (well maybe not...it's debatable) watching "he's just not that into you", it furthers the argument to a certain extent. "they're like everybody else. everybody does that sometime." "the constant obsession and waiting by the phone may look or actually is crazy, but that's what all girls do." "that's how girls think." yadda yadda yadda. i dunno. the way i see it is the same way i saw it a couple months back, there are the idiosyncrasies and the craziness. nothing much changed. it just takes time to decipher between the two, for sure, because each girl is different and unique, but i just feel people tend to legitimize things and making everything okay, especially Gigi (had to wiki the movie for the names). all the female characters are irrationally ridiculous and it's sad to hear that there are ladies out in the real world that actually think like this. throughout the movie, i was quite disturbed. i can't imagined how even more disturbed if i meet someone like that... oh wait i have...
but the most pressing idea that inspired me from that movie is the motivation for a woman to want to have that special intimate relationship with a guy, the special occurring phenomenon: girls dating jerks. i feel there is a universal underlining motivation behind everyone of those "girls in a relationships with jerks", a deep root hidden yet to be exposed. well it's been dug up and here's what i see:
supposedly wired and trained since pre-school of that "oh a guy that treats you like a jerk means he actually likes you", girls take note of this and use this as an indicator. using this indicator, girls are willing to hook up with jerks because it's easier and "safer" (why take chances on a nice guy whom you don't know if he likes you because he doesn't treat you like a jerk). once in that relationship (and here's the key part), she figures now that 'cause they're in a relationship, it provides a window for to change the guy. what's a greater story than changing that jerk into the nice guy or gentleman? the girl can take in great recognition. she has become the exception, just like how justin long's character describes (but for a different purpose in this scenario). this exceptional girl has accomplished a feat that so many girls have attempted because there are so many girls in this type of relationship: "going out with the jerk"-type. just imagine the bragging rights this exceptional one has. she will forever be in the hall of fame amongst her lady-friends and their friends. she'll have her own column in cosmopolitan, giving advice to women in how to transform the jerk into a prince. it's like the female version of william shakespeare's "taming of the shrew". honestly what it comes down to, just like what justin long says later on, she (or you) is not the exception. bottom-line, it doesn't turn out that way and yet what is so ironic is that... baby girl knows the situation. she knows the odds of this type of relationship not working out and yet she still pursues it. so many times she would be like "oh yeah i know i always go for the bad guys; i'll definitely go for the nice guys this time 'cause i'm done with jerks" but whoops, the cycle continues. people would think she would be more economical and not waste the time and effort, wait and invest for a better guy, but hold up, have we forgot what's been said above? it seems like the opportunity cost is better to pursue that relationship than to not to. the bragging rights. cosmopolitan column. hall fame amongst lady-friends. the absolute possibility of that jerk of a "boyfriend" to be tamed into a gentleman. i suppose lady luck is working against those odds as she, too, is struggling in her relationship with her jerk boyfriend name reality.
so the moral of the story, guys/fellows be the jerks. screw being the nice guys. girls will always go for the jerk because it's the better choice for them. be the daddy for all the girls that have daddy issues. it's a win-win situations always.
and girls, just continuing pursuing the jerks, no point in changing what's wired since preschool. just live out those disney films and wish upon the star that your prince will come or better yet, spend your whole effort in dating the jerk and changing him, you can tame that beast, it's the most coveted award amongst your peers.
i am kidding. i wouldn't endorse this kind of conclusion. but overall, this general topic can keep tumbling down the hill and yet it's only one piece of the giant stone that is rolling down. i don't mean to sound like a hopeless romantic type of guy (gross. God forbid) but as a critique on what i observe. looking back at it, it seems more like a rant, like those cliche ones in middle/high school xanga. but whatevers, for as of now, i'll be heading to the mountains and carve my way down through the icy slopes. hope my weak knee doesn't give out.
